I have some advice for you, my lovely friends. Make peace, give forgiveness, apologize, accept forgiveness and do it now. I am not one to hold many grudges. I’ve done a lot of apologizing and forgiving all along the way. But I’ve held on to a couple of old hurts probably for the same reasons anyone holds on to grudges:
- I felt I had the right to
- it made me feel superior in some way
- there is some level of martyrdom that I wanted
- it was just part of my history
- and because I didn’t realize the relief it would give me to let it go
This past week has brought up a couple of old hurts that I needed to make right. It all comes back, okay? Any pain you’ve held on to will find it’s way back up to the surface for you to deal with. Wounds want to heal, it’s us that get in the way of the healing. And in the end, the pain that you’ve been holding on to is your own damn fault. That’s the beauty of it, it’s yours to decide what to do with.
So during the past 3 days I stepped out of the way of the healing process. I just changed my mind about the pain. I put my hand on my forehead and said “hallelujah, you are healed!” And I am. Because I want to be.
Just remember that it doesn’t mean things go back to where they were when the pain began. Healing changes the scenery. When you cut your self the skin that heals the wound is new. It’s the same for everything else. I have done some healing and I’m walking around with some new skin.
